My wait for My capable Wife, to find me?

1. Why do I just wait, patiently for her to find me?

2. Why don't I continue to try desperately to find a new mate before I get too old and uninterested for it to even matter?

3. Why have I given up on online dating?

4. Why do I feel like waiting for her to find me is best?

Why do I just wait, patiently for her to find me?

To be honest, I'm very tired of my blind efforts. For instance, a capable wife as outlined in Proverbs 31:10-31 — to be honest, I have only met one woman personally that fits the description. She happened to be my boss lady, and stories like that only happen on TV.

Granted, I will not marry my boss lady. Plus I can imagine getting a ring, getting down on one knee and asking her to marry me, and it would be like a newspaper comic strip, Beetle Bailey: I don't remember what Beetle did to make the Sargent mad, he stomped him into the ground, and I imagined she would do the same thing to me while reminding me: "I told you to keep this professional," over and over again.

Like Beetle, I would hold up one finger and say, "You missed a finger!?" Then she would stomp that one! Then like Beetle replies: "You are a perfectionist!" So I will never try that.

Why don't I continue to try desperately to find a new mate before I get too old and uninterested for it to even matter?

For one thing, I don't think that could ever happen. My first wife just came out of nowhere without me doing anything to help it along or to stop it. However, it was a bad marriage. I have some good memories from the start, but looking back, the reason it was bad was it was more a physical relationship than anything.

Towards the end, I was the only one really truly in love, and the only one really truly trying. When real challenges came up, she would have fought to keep her relationship, keep her man, but she just gave up without a fight. Also, it was for no good reason — none of the things I was accused of were true. My stepchildren desperately needed to end our marriage to keep control of her money, so they didn't care if anything was going on, for they just loved money so much. So I'm not in a hurry for another 32-year nightmare.

Why have I given up on online dating?

To put it bluntly, it's a video game from hell. Whether it's a so-called safe site or an unsafe site, scam artists are still there, and I learned a valuable lesson about trust issues — keep them, and use them as a rule of thumb, so to speak. No one can be trusted until you meet them in person and they are fully verified. I'm old school now. I have to meet someone in person from now on before I believe they deserve my trust.

Why do I feel like waiting for her to find me is best?

Speaking honestly, I'm not ready for the real deal, a truly capable wife! A genuinely capable wife as outlined in Proverbs 31:10-31 is nothing to sniff at, for they are truly rare. Most women probably look at those scriptures and refuse to do it because they don't know too many men that would deserve to have a woman like that.

However, the inspired word speaks contrary to that. A truly capable wife is so valuable that if she ends up with a not-so-capable man, but she continues in her capableness, she will win him over to God, without even preaching a word to him. To quote the apostle: "By her chaste conduct, her husband would be won without a word!"

Word!

Von Bro'

What is my idea of true love?

 My Idea of True Love - True Love Never Fails (1 Cor 13:7,8)

What is my idea of true love?*

Many people today are confused. The world, porn, trafficking, all the industries connected to it, they tell us true love IS physical attraction. If the body looks good, that is love. But that is counterfeit love. It never satisfies. It always wants more. It rewires the world of relationships. Read more

Aqua Velva, Baby Lotion, and Sunday Morning

Aqua Velva, Baby Lotion, and Sunday Morning — Where It All Started

Sunday morning smelled like Aqua Velva and Johnson's Baby Lotion.

Baths taken, breakfast done quick. Me and Michelle would steal a few tender minutes on her back porch before church — just us, holding hands, thinking we invented love.

After church, the whole neighborhood came alive. That big field beside the house — all the kids, everywhere — and that huge beach ball. Hours of yelling, laughing, bouncing it to the sky. And me, watching everybody — "Don't touch my girl!" Not even the other girls could touch her. I didn't know nothing about nothing back then, I was only about 3 years old, I just knew she was my Michelle, my bell.

Then one kid yells it: "ED SULLIVAN'S ON!"

You never saw a yard clear so fast. One second full, next second — empty. Like magic.

Inside, we were all glued to that little black and white TV, shoulder to shoulder, breathing the same air, watching whatever miracle Ed had that night. I was too young to have too many details, but I always remember the Chinese people spinning plates on sticks and all the different groups. That kept us glued.

And the shows we watched on that little box — my favorite redhead, I Love Lucy! We had a black and white TV, but I learned she was a redhead sometime after I grew up and we got our first color TV. And the Dick Van Dyke Show, beautiful Mary Tyler Moore, mavalas!

Outside our house, there was a smoke house band close by where I lived and they sung this song all the time: "Jeremiah was a bullfrog." One of my favorites. I didn't venture out too much, being 3, but I could hear them.

And then there was the Wonderful World of Disney. That is my roots in creative writing and my desire to be an inventor!

That came later in life. I didn't start thinking of inventions until I got in high school and started studying electronics, but my memory of Disney had already planted the seeds. Knowledge of electricity ignited my imagination! Just learning about it made everything make sense. It's so fascinating. My study of the Bible started about the same time and I can understand why the Amish thought that technology was from the devil, because the things I was starting to learn seemed magical. But I can tell it was just people learning about God's creation and learning how to make inspirational things!

And outside? Just that big beach ball. Alone. Still bouncing in the empty field, like it didn't get the memo.

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Everybody digs a cool cat.

Everyone asks if the Laws of Moses are still relevant for today

                    My love for those rightly disposed for everlasting life.

 My love for those rightly disposed for everlasting life.

Makes me live my life in peace, and free from strife.

My love for all destined to survive the time of the end

Motivates me to live this life, with much hope, longing for the new world to begin.

Let's all show Christ's love to everyone, plus loving Jah forever. 

Showing concern for the beautiful earth we call home for what it's worth, waiting for the wonderful time for the end of those who are ruining the earth

I am learning this in Roanoke. I don't need money or sex as much as I need companionship - coffee, breakfast, and conversation with someone who is waiting for the new world to begin, and taking care of this beautiful earth while we wait.

       Everyone wants to have a mate.

You want to walk up to them, and ask for a date.

When doing it right, you will always get a welcome mat, cause everyone digs a cool cat.

Some corny birds think that they can throw the rap, but they look so surprised when she gives him a slap.

When doing it right, you will always get a welcome mat, cause everyone digs a cool cat.

With a dog in the act, looking for a potential mate, with a lustful gaze. With a dog in the act, it will set dating back to the cave man days.

Da Da Da Dot do da!

Yeah!

If you have been following my music "Rightly Disposed" on Jd's Digitals, you heard me sing Acts 13:48 over and over.

"All those who were rightly disposed for everlasting life became believers."

       What does that mean for finding a wife?

Most dating advice in 2026 says "find your vibe" or "find your type." The Bible says find your disposition.

*Rightly disposed means:*

1. *You want peace, not drama.* A rightly disposed woman does not love arguing on Facebook. She loves quiet, peaceful mornings.

2. *You love this earth, because God made it.* She loves nature, animals, simple beauty - not just malls and money. She can enjoy a walk in Roanoke without needing to be spoiled.

3. *You are waiting for the new world, but living rightly NOW.* She doesn't say "life is short, let's sin." She says "life is short, let's live clean waiting for Jehovah's Kingdom."

That's what I mean when I sing "Rightly Disposed." I am not looking for the hottest photo on Instagram. I'm looking for a disposition.

Yesterday a woman told me I was no fun because I wouldn't take her money. A rightly disposed woman would have said I was MORE fun because I have boundaries.

This week in Roanoke I am going to Burger King not to meet anyone special, but to sit, have coffee, have breakfast, have conversation with my Creator and watch this beautiful world. If a woman is rightly disposed, she will love that. She won't need a $100 gift card to have fun.

Are you rightly disposed? Leave a comment and tell me what you are doing today to prepare for everlasting life.

*The Series So Far:*

Day 1: The Laws of Moses on Marriage - Why God Protects Homes

Day 2: Why I Said No to Being Spoiled - Respect > Money

Day 3: You are here - Rightly Disposed

Tomorrow Day 4: How to Talk to a Woman Without Being Corny (The Cool Cat Conversation)

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      Everyone wants to have a mate.

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Von Bro' 

Yesterday I learned a big lesson about finding a capable wife in 2026.

 

Yesterday I learned a big lesson about finding a capable wife in 2026.

A woman told me "I love spoiling and financially supporting" and that "nothing fun will happen" if I don't want money.

A few years ago I would have said yes. Today I said: "I appreciate that but I don't take advantage of women. I hope you can understand that?"

That is the Cool Cat Method vs the Corny Bird Method.

*The Wrong Way (Corny Bird Method):*

Take the money. Get spoiled. Think you found love because someone offers to pay your bills. Then one day she needs "help with her mom in El Paso" or needs you to buy a gift card. Now you are trapped. That is not love, that is a transaction. Moses called that being entangled.

*The Right Way (Cool Cat Method):*

A capable wife is not looking to buy you, and you are not looking to buy her. Proverbs 31 says she is trustworthy, she works with willing hands, she speaks with wisdom. She wants respect, not a receipt.

Moses' law on marriage was about protection - protecting the home from strangers, from debt, from being unequally yoked. A real home is built on companionship: coffee, breakfast, and conversation. Not spoiling.

In Roanoke I am learning: Respect gets the welcome mat. If a person cannot respect your "no money" boundary, they will not respect your home.

I am waiting for a woman who is rightly disposed for everlasting life - peaceful, loves Jah, loves this beautiful earth while we wait for the new world to begin. She will not offer to spoil me. She will offer to sit with me.

Have you ever been offered the spoiling trap? How did you handle it? Comment below.

*Follow the series:*

Day 1: The Laws of Moses on Marriage

Day 2: You are here

Day 3 Tomorrow: What "Rightly Disposed" Really Means for Dating

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In my last post I said I'm in search of a Capable Wife.

 

In my last post I said I'm in search of a Capable Wife. A lot of people asked me what I mean.

 

I'm in search of a Capable Wife. A lot of people asked me what I mean.

I mean Proverbs 31:10-31. This is the standard. Here is my verse-by-verse breakdown of what I'm actually looking for.

*10 - Her Value is Rare*

A capable wife who can find? She is far more precious than jewels.

She is not common. Her worth is character, not just looks.

_Proverbs 18:22, Proverbs 12:4_

*11 - She Can Be Trusted*

The heart of her husband trusts in her, and he will have no lack of gain.

She brings peace, not anxiety.

_Proverbs 20:6-7, Genesis 39:4-6_

*12 - She is Consistent*

She does him good, and not harm, all the days of her life.

Not mood-based love. All the days.

_Ruth 1:16-17, Romans 12:9_

*13-14 - She is a Hard Worker*

She seeks wool and flax, and works with willing hands. Like merchant ships, she brings food from afar.

Resourceful, not entitled.

_Proverbs 14:1, 2 Thessalonians 3:10_

*15 - She is Diligent*

She rises while it is yet night and provides food for her household.

She puts her house first.

_Luke 12:42, Joshua 24:15_

*16-18 - She is Smart with Money*

She considers a field and buys it... her lamp does not go out at night.

She can handle real life business.

_Proverbs 16:3, Matthew 25:14-30_

*19-20 - She is Skilled and Compassionate*to 

She puts her hands to the distaff... She opens her hand to the poor.

Strong hands, soft heart.

_Proverbs 19:17, Acts 9:39_

*21-22 - She is Prepared*

She is not afraid of snow for her household... She makes bed coverings.

Her family is ready because she prepared.

_Proverbs 27:23, Proverbs 21:5_

*23 - She Makes Her Husband Better*

Her husband is known in the gates when he sits among the elders.

A capable wife lifts her man up.

_Proverbs 12:4, Ecclesiastes 4:9_

*24-25 - She is Strong and Not Afraid of the Future*

Strength and dignity are her clothing, and she laughs at the time to come.

Her confidence is from God.

_1 Peter 3:3-4, Philippians 4:6-7_

*26 - She is Wise with Her Words*

She opens her mouth with wisdom, and the teaching of kindness is on her tongue.

Wise, not gossip. Kind and truthful.

_Proverbs 15:1, Colossians 4:6_

*27 - She Leads Her Home*

She looks well to the ways of her household and does not eat the bread of idleness.

She is a leader, not a guest in her own house.

_1 Timothy 5:8, Titus 2:4-5_

*28-29 - She is Praised at Home First*

Her children rise up and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her.

The real award is in her own home.

_Ephesians 6:1-3, Proverbs 17:6_

*30-31 - The Secret*

Charm is deceitful, and beauty is vain, but a woman who fears the LORD is to be praised.

Looks fade. Fearing God is what makes her capable. That's the one I want.

_Proverbs 9:10, Ecclesiastes 12:13_

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*So I ask you:*

If you are a woman who fears the Lord and you understood this breakdown — which verse describes you the most?

Leave it in the comments. I read every one.

- Von Bro' 

In Search of a Capable Wife!

 

1. Why would anyone in their right mind create such a blog site?

2. What would be the purpose of such a blog site?

3. What did God mean in Genesis, when he said, it was not good for the man to be alone?

4. Why does a man need to look so hard for the one female person to complete him? 

Why Would Anyone In Their Right Mind Create Such A Blog?*

First of all, I never said I was in my right mind. I'm not a psychologist, and I don't know if this is what I should be doing at this point in my life. I've been thinking about it for a long time and finally said, what the heck!

If I can't find her, why not make it easier for her to find me? As far as I know, she may not be as far from me as I think.

*What Would Be The Purpose Of Such A Blog Site?*

The purpose is obvious. When someone is lost and family is looking for them, and they WANT to be found, they leave clues — breadcrumbs.

On this blog, I will leave as many relationship breadcrumbs as I can, so the woman who is right for me can follow them and realize I'm the one she's been looking for, and she is the one I've been looking for.

*What Did God Mean In Genesis When He Said, It Was Not Good For The Man To Be Alone?*

This should be self-evident to any Bible student. When God told Adam to name all the animals, that desire for a mate was already there. As Adam observed them to give them a fitting name, he realized he was the only one without a mate.

And when he received his mate from God, he was so overjoyed he broke into poetry.

*Why Does A Man Need To Look So Hard For The One Woman To Complete Him?*

Mostly, because we are going about it the wrong way. No matter how spiritual we think we are, this Satan-ruled world projects its erroneous ways on us.

We have to ask: Is my preference for a mate really what _I_ want, or is it what outside forces influenced me to want? Most of us aren't sure.

I thought a thick, juicy woman was my favorite. But after a failed marriage, I learned body type is not the only thing to look for in a mate. Word!

Von Bro'